I'm a married woman, married to a woman. We and our kind may not be fully embraced and loved, but we are not invisible. Not by a long shot.
In 1989, during the height of the AIDs epidemic, 4,500 protestors gathered at St. Patrick's cathedral in New York to protest Cardinal O'Connor's position on safe sex, homosexuality, condom distribution and abortion. Several dozen protesters entered the church, disrupting services and even going so far to desecrate a communion wafer.
At the time, the protests were vilified--many said ACT-UP had gone too far in its militancy and disrespect.
But, when your life is at stake, you can't be nice. When no one else is speaking up, you have to make whatever noise your tiny voice can manage. Even if it isn't nice. Even if people get upset.
Your silence will not protect you. --Audre Lourde
Silence = Death
And just this week in Indiana...
In the midst of this furious debate, I have prayed earnestly for wisdom and compassion... --Gov. Mike Pence
This just gets me.
I want to know why the governor's prayers for wisdom and compassion are coming after the NCAA, SalesForce, Gen-Con (etc etc) threaten to pull their business from Indiana and not before signing the original bill that would allow businesses to exclude LGBT from their businesses.
Did the wisdom and compassion come in the form of a new insight that everyone could see his position was total bull shit?
The governor's "surprise" that RFRA would impact his state's business just fascinates me. That anyone, much less the governor of such a populous state, would think such an act would go un-challenged speaks to how vocal we still need to be. To not be comfortable. To not be nice.
To not be silent.
Silence = Death
What was "good for the State of Indiana" just over a week ago needed to be signed into law in a private ceremony--make of that what you will.
Prejudice is not nice either so lets keep it quiet behind a closed door. If we pretend it isn't happening, maybe everyone else will pretend too.
Governor, thank you for the "fix" but nobody is playing your game of make believe. There is still a lot to be done--not just in Indiana either.
While I still believe dialog, mutual understanding and respect are the way forward, I will be damned if I stand by silent and docile for the sake of being nice and being respectful.
I will not sit down because my anger makes you uncomfortable.
I will not quietly die to keep things the same.